You speak regularly with your loved one’s therapists and substance abuse treatment professionals about the effects of addiction and how treatment helps. You keep up with your loved one’s progress and ask questions to make sure that treatment is progressing. You likely have learned quite a bit about addiction in general, including the specifics of how different drugs impact the brain and change the behavior of the user, either through reading online or talking to other people. You also likely spend an hour a week – or more – in therapy with your loved one in recovery, working on the issues that developed through active addiction and determining how best to move forward and rebuild your relationship in sobriety.
Though your focus on supporting your loved one is important and necessary to helping your loved one stabilize in recovery, it is also important that you direct an equal amount of attention on your own personal healing. Addiction is exhausting for family members, taking a toll on physical and mental health. Just as you are directed on an airplane to put on your own oxygen mask before helping others, when it comes to finding balance and wellness in life, you must first make sure that you are stable before you will be able to help others find their own sense of stability.