Are You Sabotaging Yourself in Recovery?
The good news is that, though you cannot always control what happens to you during the day, you can control how you respond. The not-so-good news is that you may be inadvertently sabotaging your ability to stay sober by those very choices.
Are you sabotaging yourself in recovery? Here are a few ways to identify how you may be standing in your own way and what you can do differently.
If you think that it is humble or honest to continually downplay your abilities, undersell your accomplishments, or call yourself names (e.g., “I’m just stupid,” or “I never do anything right.”), you may be cutting your ability to make positive choices short before you even get started. No matter what you may feel about your choices while in active addiction, today is a new day, and it can be the start of looking at things with a fresh and positive perspective.
It may be your way of protecting yourself from potential conflict or judgment from others, but negative energy for any reason will do little to help you get where you want to be in your life. In relationships with others, in your ability to craft a new future for yourself, and even in just being with yourself, the negativity is infectious and can permeate every part of your day.
Almost no one is proud of all the choices they made during active addiction. Lack of impulse control and a drive to get and stay high usually set the stage for hurtful and damaging choices. Additionally, abuse and trauma may be part of your addiction history as well. It is easy to allow feelings of guilt, shame, or anger to pervade your new life in sobriety, but these feelings will thwart your efforts to stay sober and balanced.
Having an emotional response to something unexpected or unwanted is normal. Allowing those emotions to dictate how you choose to handle that situation, however, can lead to choices that are harmful emotionally and sometimes physically damaging as well.
No matter what your past choices have been in recovery, you always have today, right now, to begin making changes that will increase your ability to stay sober and strengthen your foundation in your new life. What changes will you make to help yourself avoid relapse and have a more peaceful, balanced experience in sobriety?
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